Note: I am single but I got the idea to write this letter to my future wife inshallah after reading this verse in the Qu’ran:
|]||You men incur no consequence if, at this time, you ethically and indirectly advance your marriage offer for consideration, or if you only entertain the idea or cling to hope. Allah knows well that attraction to women is natural to you and that you think about them.….. you may hold honourable conversation with them. al-Baqarah 2:235|
So I started to think about my future wife and what qualities I want her to have and how I want my future family to be. I decided to write a letter to my future wife inshallah. This is all by God’s permission. Here is the letter:
You have my heart beating in the palms of your hands. I love you and trust you so much that I have given you my heart, knowing that you will return my love for you. I want you to be my woman, and I want to be your man. When I first met you, I knew you were different from all the other women who use their bodies to get attention. You dressed modestly and attracted me with your intellect and with the purity of your soul.
I am proud to have you as a wife. You are pious and pray frequently, and instead of following reality shows and pop stars like Nicki Minaj, you follow what God has revealed in the Qu’ran and the Bible. You shun idle talk and profanity, choosing instead to speak the wise words of Allah. You are a delicate, beautiful woman but your mind is even more beautiful, and I am in awe of your glorious spiritual qualities. You have learned chastity and purity from Mary, the mother of the Messiah; bravery from Pharaoh’s wife; class from the Queen of Sheba; repentance from Eve, loyalty from Khadijah; patience from Asiya; and sincerity from A’ysha.
I’m thankful that I courted you according to our beliefs. We waited for our parents’ permission before we went on a date, and we followed God’s guidance. When we started talking, we shared our goals, ambitions, and plans in life, and we soon found that we were compatible. Our conversations are deep and interesting, and I’m intrigued by your knowledge and ideas on a variety of subjects. I feel honored to be with such a beautiful woman, and you charmed me with your class and your modesty; nobody could compare to you.
I began to get to know you on a spiritual level, too. You avoid gossip and only speak pure words, and I felt so blessed to have you in my life. You made me want to become a better person, and I knew when we met that we were meant for each other.
I didn’t want to rush into it, but every time I thought about getting engaged, I felt so happy. I prayed to Istikrah with positive results, and I felt confident about my decision. You deserve my last name, which is the same name as our Prophet. We will work toward our goal of Jannah, and there is nothing that can stop us from growing spiritually as we share our lives together.
When we got married, we vowed before God to be faithful to one another until we reunited in the afterlife, inshallah. Our love can transcend lifetimes, and I know that I will love you for all eternity. It wasn’t easy, but we waited until after our wedding day to become intimate, and our wedding day was amazing. I know that God is pleased with our choice to remain pure, and he ordained love and mercy between us. My love for you stems from my spirit, and I know that you feel the same way, too. Our love is pure and it comes from the highest source.
Allah said: “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.”
You, my beautiful wife, gave birth to our precious sons and daughters: Zayd, Ibrahim, Ayesha, Khalid, and Fatima. While I’m hard at work providing for us all, you are teaching our lovely family the morals and values from the Qu’ran. Our children have your love and guidance to direct them to the right path throughout their lives; you teach my sons to respect women and treat them kindly, and teach my daughters to be modest and chaste. You teach the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad and you teach of the ways of the Virgin Mary and Khadijah. You teach them the surahs from the Qu’ran, and from Adam to Abraham to Moses to Jesus to Muhammad, they have many positive role models to look up to.
With your support and loving kindness, our children know they can aspire to become great. I am so thankful for the beautiful family that we have created together, and for your role as a mother to my children. And when our children are gone, we have our romantic nights when I bring you flowers and carry you over the threshold, and I read poetry to you and give you massages. I want to be the best husband I can be so that I can show my love for you; I work out so I can protect you and stay in shape, I read books so I can stimulate you intellectually, and I go to work so I can provide for you financially. You are my wife, and I want to always treat you like a queen.
The Qu’ran states: “O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness… on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity…” (Quran 4:19)
I promise to always treat you with kindness. Even when we get into inevitable disagreements, I’ll watch the tone of my voice and be reasonable. I’ll be slow to anger but quick to forgive. I want our entire family to worship the one true God of Abraham because then we will all be in paradise after this life, where we will forever be a happy family. Every day when I wake up next to you, I see your beautiful face and I thank God for sending you to me. My life wouldn’t be the same without you.